A Note From Mary Robb

I’m so happy you made it here!! Welcome to my small corner of the internet. It’s been a dream of mine to build a life that allows me to lead others in finding happiness and success. Creating content and sharing stories is my favorite way to do just that! I’m so thankful to have you here with me 🙂

Women are multi-faceted, which means we have interests in so many things! Here you’ll see me talk about fashion, fitness, food, business, health, home, travel and more. It’s essentially a look into all aspects of my world. Whether you’re a mom, entrepreneur, wife, or just love reading blogs (guilty), I hope you find things here that excite you! 

To dive deeper into who I am, my why, women today, and my perspective on women today and how our culture illustrates us, keep scrolling. Otherwise, enjoy the rest of the blog! 

 XXXO

 

The Modern Woman. 

One thing we can all agree on is this: the role of the woman has evolved over a short period of time. Not only has there been a 53% increase in women who work since the 70s, but more women today are becoming serial entrepreneurs. With more access to education and a society becoming more supportive of women being in the workplace, our potential has exploded.

The internet has given us access to free information, it’s allowed us to create relationships with people across the world, and it’s easier than ever to pursue our dreams.

With the freedom and flexibility to design a life we love, I see it as a huge opportunity to make the most of what we have and push ourselves to become all that we can be.

I grew up watching my mom work a full-time job, while still being present and involved in my life. She made so many sacrifices for her family, and watching her build her career is what inspired me to do the same.

My mom taught me how to have courage, be confident, and how to go after what I want. In 2019, I launched the business of my dreams and most of my time now is spent growing it. I want this blog to be a place where women can be inspired to become their truest, most authentic selves while pursuing their biggest, scariest dreams. Because if I can do it, so can you. I didn’t say it would be easy, but it is absolutely worth it. 

My Why.

2020 was the year that rocked my world. I joke that the number of life lessons I learned in one year should cover me for the next ten. But in all honesty, I’m just now starting to reflect on what I learned during one of the darkest seasons in my life.

Recently, I was answering a question for a social media post that was going up on my business page. It was the kind of post that required some vulnerability on my part. It got me thinking about everything that’s happened, and I ended up finally being able to come up with the words that define what I believe to be my life’s purpose.

My purpose is to uplift, inspire and encourage women. My purpose is to be a source of strength and courage for women. My purpose is to love others the way Jesus did, and to lead people to love like Him. So how do I plan to do that here, through this blog?

The Anti-Feminist.

My passion is rooted in a personal desire to pursue all the things women can be. We live in a time where women have more rights and opportunities than ever before, and I believe my purpose in this life is to take as many of those opportunities that I can, and show other women how they can as well.

So let’s address the elephant in the room.

Many female entrepreneurs I look up to and have learned from use messages that attract feminists, things like “women don’t need men!!” or “women are undervalued!!” or using victim mentality undertones that honestly kinda make my skin crawl.

TBH I think there will always be a battle between the sexes. Men will always try to sexualize and undermine women. Women will always be capable of doing more than men. But focusing on the problem rather than taking steps towards the solution never really made sense to me.

This leads me to the reason I’m sharing all of this: I’m not a feminist. Before you roll your eyes and move on, I really want you to understand my story. I’m not asking you to agree with me, but I would love for you to be open to seeing things from another woman’s perspective:

My experiences: never have I felt like I couldn’t do what I wanted to do. Maybe I was born with an abnormal level of self-esteem, but through my experience in the workplace and in life, I’ve never felt as though it was anyone else’s responsibility to take me to where I want to go in life. My parents did their best to give me what I needed, but I was raised that ultimately if I wanted something, I needed to figure out how to go out and get it for myself. TBH I never had time to think about other people and how they might be holding me back. I was focused 150% on chasing what I wanted for my life.

My faith: I believe in God and that men and women have very important – yet different roles in this world. The Bible very specifically outlines what those roles are, and I do my best to live my life as it says in the Bible.

My relationships: I need men in my life for many reasons, and I could not do what I do without the men that are in my life or have been in my life. I’ve had men who were mentors, bosses, employees, boyfriends, etc. that all made a major impact on my life. And for that, I’ll forever be grateful…does that mean I’ve never had a bad experience with men? Hell no!

Since women need examples (#guilty), let me name just a few 🙂 Men have taken credit for my work, spoken over me, called me “babe” or “baby” in a professional environment, hit on me, gotten mad at me for not wanting to have sex with them, cheated on me, lied to me, taken advantage of me, used me, gaslighted me, chosen money over me, the list goes on and on and on. But that doesn’t mean ALL men are bad. Plus, why would I give the man any power over my life? When you place blame on someone or something else, they are given that power. Instead of being a victim, I’ve chosen to learn from each experience and focus on what I can do better next time. This includes being more aware of the men I’m allowing into my life – whether that’s a personal or business relationship. 

With that said, I also know that women have to work smarter than men (not necessarily harder). We have to be bold, sometimes more aggressive than men. We have to demand respect. We have to earn power. I’ve found that so many women are still learning the “how” – how to be bold, how to be aggressive, how to demand respect… that’s where I come in. 

I truly believe you can have it all. But you can’t have it all until you learn how to become the most bold version of yourself. The journey to ultimate happiness and freedom isn’t easy, and it certainly does come at a cost. But it is so worth it! Stick around here and we’ll build our empires together 🙂